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Do Little Things for Others
>> Saturday, August 23, 2014
Do Little Things for Others
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During my childhood days, my father used to tell me “Do good to others, if you can. If not possible then keep quite, but don’t do harm to others!” This was registered in my mind since then. Now, my father isn’t around. But I still remember his words. I also try to be at least half good as compared to him as I know I can’t be him for sure!
Whenever I do something good for others, I get a nice feeling in my heart and it gives me satisfaction. More than that, I find my happiness in doing such things. This I had realized long back and I continue doing little things to others whenever I get the opportunity.
The most important thing is that when you help someone do not expect something in return from that person. It is something that would set you apart from others who help keeping something in their mind. Also the second thing is that you needn’t speak about it with others. Some of the people have this habit of blowing their own trumpet after helping someone in need. This puts one in different light altogether. Never remember the good thing you did someone and never forget something good someone did to you.
Like the famous quote by Mother Theresa, "We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love", you need not sacrifice your life to prove you are a friend in need. All you need to stand by your friend in his or her time of need. This is the best thing you could do for the friendship. My friends have helped me to do better in my life in someway or the other and I respect them for that. Sometimes, I even think that I wouldn’t have come this far, without the support of my friends in my life. The best example I can give about how my friends helped me by being the best constructive critics to me when I was a budding writer during my school days.
Their valuable feedback surely helped me to do better and continue writing. It was one of my best pen friends Subramanian who had written to me that ‘It would be great loss to the literary world if I gave up writing!’ He motivated and inspired me along with other friends to continue writing and here I am writing this article today after many years still remembering what he had written to me then! Likewise, I might have helped my friends in some way or the other. But I don’t recall any of those things today. All I know is that I will be there for them if they need me.
One little thing you can do to others is to accept them as they are. They are fine as they are! We are all flawed in some way or the other like the moon that has a dark side as well and none of us is perfect. If you like to appreciate then do let them know it. If you have to criticize something about them then do it in a constructive way. So that it helps them to improve themselves.
Do little things like holding doors open for others; forgiving them for things they do unintentionally, give them space to be themselves, fetching them something they need. Give them your smile and make them feel comfortable. Be with them when they need you. Also be honest and truthful to them. These are some of the little things that you do register in their minds and remain in their hearts for time to come.
As a matter of fact, life is made up of such simple and little things or you can say that it is an accumulation of such wonderful little things that makes one’s life. The best example I can give here is whenever I prepare Bru coffee for myself, I remember those wonderful days when my aunty whom I called 'Sai Pedamma' used to prepare wonderful Bru coffee. Well, she may be preparing for others too. But I felt like she made it especially for me. Whenever, I used to go to her house, I would eagerly wait for that cup of coffee. Whenever I drank it…it gave me a kind of joy. Sadly, she is no more with us. But I still remember her with the little things she did to us which occupy major part of my heart today.
Most of the times, you can help others to help themselves. This is one of the best little things you can do to others so that they don’t depend upon you every time they need help. I remember during my childhood days one of my friend who thought me cycling, allowed me to fall down and smiled instead of giving me a helping hand to get up back on my feet. I got up rather annoyed and irritated at his behavior. Then he said, ‘I may not be there to help you get up most of the times in near future. You should learn to stand up on your feet whenever you fall down!’ These are some of things that made me to depend on myself in the time of my need.
You may not be able to solve other people’s problems, but you can soothe them by just listening to their stories or incidents that they want to tell. Listen to others more than you can speak and advise them. Only advise them when they really need it. Remember, many times they only long for a willing heart that listens to them. They will pick up their courage and fight their devils after that.
Random Thoughts
During my childhood days, my father used to tell me “Do good to others, if you can. If not possible then keep quite, but don’t do harm to others!” This was registered in my mind since then. Now, my father isn’t around. But I still remember his words. I also try to be at least half good as compared to him as I know I can’t be him for sure!
Whenever I do something good for others, I get a nice feeling in my heart and it gives me satisfaction. More than that, I find my happiness in doing such things. This I had realized long back and I continue doing little things to others whenever I get the opportunity.
The most important thing is that when you help someone do not expect something in return from that person. It is something that would set you apart from others who help keeping something in their mind. Also the second thing is that you needn’t speak about it with others. Some of the people have this habit of blowing their own trumpet after helping someone in need. This puts one in different light altogether. Never remember the good thing you did someone and never forget something good someone did to you.
Like the famous quote by Mother Theresa, "We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love", you need not sacrifice your life to prove you are a friend in need. All you need to stand by your friend in his or her time of need. This is the best thing you could do for the friendship. My friends have helped me to do better in my life in someway or the other and I respect them for that. Sometimes, I even think that I wouldn’t have come this far, without the support of my friends in my life. The best example I can give about how my friends helped me by being the best constructive critics to me when I was a budding writer during my school days.
Their valuable feedback surely helped me to do better and continue writing. It was one of my best pen friends Subramanian who had written to me that ‘It would be great loss to the literary world if I gave up writing!’ He motivated and inspired me along with other friends to continue writing and here I am writing this article today after many years still remembering what he had written to me then! Likewise, I might have helped my friends in some way or the other. But I don’t recall any of those things today. All I know is that I will be there for them if they need me.
One little thing you can do to others is to accept them as they are. They are fine as they are! We are all flawed in some way or the other like the moon that has a dark side as well and none of us is perfect. If you like to appreciate then do let them know it. If you have to criticize something about them then do it in a constructive way. So that it helps them to improve themselves.
Do little things like holding doors open for others; forgiving them for things they do unintentionally, give them space to be themselves, fetching them something they need. Give them your smile and make them feel comfortable. Be with them when they need you. Also be honest and truthful to them. These are some of the little things that you do register in their minds and remain in their hearts for time to come.
As a matter of fact, life is made up of such simple and little things or you can say that it is an accumulation of such wonderful little things that makes one’s life. The best example I can give here is whenever I prepare Bru coffee for myself, I remember those wonderful days when my aunty whom I called 'Sai Pedamma' used to prepare wonderful Bru coffee. Well, she may be preparing for others too. But I felt like she made it especially for me. Whenever, I used to go to her house, I would eagerly wait for that cup of coffee. Whenever I drank it…it gave me a kind of joy. Sadly, she is no more with us. But I still remember her with the little things she did to us which occupy major part of my heart today.
Most of the times, you can help others to help themselves. This is one of the best little things you can do to others so that they don’t depend upon you every time they need help. I remember during my childhood days one of my friend who thought me cycling, allowed me to fall down and smiled instead of giving me a helping hand to get up back on my feet. I got up rather annoyed and irritated at his behavior. Then he said, ‘I may not be there to help you get up most of the times in near future. You should learn to stand up on your feet whenever you fall down!’ These are some of things that made me to depend on myself in the time of my need.
You may not be able to solve other people’s problems, but you can soothe them by just listening to their stories or incidents that they want to tell. Listen to others more than you can speak and advise them. Only advise them when they really need it. Remember, many times they only long for a willing heart that listens to them. They will pick up their courage and fight their devils after that.
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